Its something how life changes and goes in rotation. If you are not gonna change your life, life will change it for you especially when you have given and dedicated your life to God and made up your mind to follow Him. I am in a season in my life where God has done a 180 on my life ….I have and are going through some serious changes in my life ….I know it is for the best because as many people are leaving ,God is blessing!!!!!

This is a paper I just wrote for my Psychology class …Tell me your thoughts

We always hear the cliché, “It all starts at home” when it comes to raising children. Have you ever wondered really what that statement meant? What starts at home? Does having manners start at home? Does having respect and loyalty and integrity start at home? What exactly does this mean? Well, from my understanding and experiences being raised correctly with every aspect of becoming who I am and was supposed to be started in the home. All that you learn, see and may hear should be taught by your parents and/or guardians that take care of you. We see that sometimes or a lot of times we hear this cliché when we see kids, teens or young adults act a certain way or do certain things that we were not raised to do as a child and as we got older.

In this day and age, we see a lot of behaviors that come from a lot of children, young and older that was not a custom to. Most cases, when we see children like this they either turn out good or turn out bad. Today, we have two scenarios that we see on a day to day basis. The first scenario: A spiritual married couple that is following the ways of God in their marriage and with their children. One parent may pastor or may serve in another ministry in the church or both parents are just very spiritual. Those parents try to do everything they can to raise their children up right in the ways of God so they can live the life that God would have them to do. Somehow while his/her parents are teaching them the right thing, they explore and get into things they are a custom to doing because of the God –fearing parents that they have and they do something outrageously out of the will of what their parents taught them.  I have seen this scenario unfold and crumble in front of my eyes. I have so many friends that parents serve in ministry and are very spiritual, raised them to do the right things but just got older and did their own thing. They smoke weed, drink, club, and have kids. I believe that all of that is nature and nature because of the fact that when your parents have set a foundation like that, there will be some “exploring of the outside” world because you have been sheltered majority of your life.

As being a product of a spiritual single parent mother and God-fearing grandparents, I didn’t get to go out where I wanted to, have friends and date and all of that stuff. I was always in church, serving on different ministries and serving outside of my church. When I got older and started making my own decisions, I wanted to do my own thing. I started doing things that I was bought up not to do but it was through my experiences that bought me back to what I was taught when I was a child. I know that this is a Psychology paper but the Bible says that, you train up a child in the way He should go and when He gets old, he shall never depart from it. Despite the fact that I was bought up in a strong spiritual God-fearing back ground, I got to experience the things that I was taught not to do that allowed me to be grateful and thankful for the teachings of my mother and all that I was taught as a child. Sometimes adolescence and young adults go through that phase of “I want to see what’s out there” and then eventually come back to their senses and do what is right. It’s the nurture of the environment that makes us explore the world and see what is out there but it is the nature of the teachings of our parents that brings us back to what we were taught as children.

Now this second scenario is kind of a different one. This is a scenario that you see a lot of in this world we live in. Let’s take a look. Now the second scenario: You have a child that has a parent/parents that are on drugs, never in the child’s life or you may have one parent that is doing the right thing and the other is not in the home or in their lives period but because they had a rough life, they made it their business to live their lives the right way. A lot of times because of the fact that they struggled as children, teenagers and now they are young adults, they made it their business to not become what their parents were.

In this case, it’s the nature(heredity)of what they don’t want to be because of what and how they see their parents live and nurture(what they experience in life) that makes them want to be more than what they see in the environment they live in. I have a lot of friends that are examples of this situation. They made a promise to themselves that we would be of the world but be more than the world and where they live. I also have friends that are examples of the first scenario. Some of them made like I did to live right and be what we were called to be in our lives.  Both scenarios can go both ways, good and bad but its all how you take the situation and how you apply it to the way you live.

SUNDAY MORNING

Romans 12:1&2 -MSG

 So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life-your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life-and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him.Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you.

Hebrews 4:12&13-NLT

For the word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires.

  Nothing in all creation is hidden from God. Everything is naked and exposed before his eyes, and he is the one to whom we are accountable.

I must say that there comes time for a change. Whether its a change in your job, home or school, there comes a time for something new. We buy different things to enhance our living and to just be different. We sometimes see people go through transitions of change. Marriage, kids, new jobs but one in particular that we are all familiar with, giving our lives to Christ. They give their lives to Christ but after they leave church , and their right back to where they started. They felt something in them that had to out(deliverance) but after church they went right back to the same living style. Even us as Christians go to church every Sunday faithfully, hear the word, shout and run and scream and holla around the church and leave the church filled and go back home empty like God didn’t do anything for you while you were in worship We shouldn’t just get the word and leave and do the same thing we were doing before we came to the house of God. God wants us to get the word and be doers of the word so that it may shape us and mold us into what He has called us to be. Believe it or not, God has a plan for our lives. We may not know what it is or understand what it may be or how it will flourish right now but God has a destiny for our lives that has to be fulfilled.

In all of this, we are scared to be transformed, being taken out of our comfort zones, and for God to lead us in the right direction. God has good, pleasing and perfect plans for us as His children. He wants us to have renewed minds so that we may honor and obey him. In our comfort zones, we try to please other people and try to fit in . God created us to be different …to be in His likeness …If God wanted us all the same, he would have done so. We must let God transform us and change us. It all starts in the mind. It starts when you tell God you want to change and what to be changed and be made like Him. God gives us freewill to do what we want but he will only give us a certain amount of time to act a fool and act crazy till our only resort is to come to Him. God gives us a choice to be with him or not but we already know that God chose us and saved us but God gives us options.

I wanted to do this blog because so many people struggle with themselves when worship is over and they have to go back home to their regular lives, their issues and drama. While I was pending on doing this blog, I so happen to come across some old study notes that I had written down years ago about submitting to God and to do His will and I came across this.

Romans 12:1&2 talks about how Paul explains what it means to live in complete submission to God. To submit to God, you have to obey Him first, yielding our bodies, minds, wills and even our emotions to Him. You have to understand and realize that the Holy Spirit must guide and renew every part of you. Which means we have to give our all. We just can’t go get the word on Sunday and leave the same way we came in the door. I don’t see how a person can come to church and still be the same. All that is saying is that they were pew warmers the whole service …soaking up all the word but not using it for good use. We have to hear the word , live the word and do the word. We can’t get side tracked on what someone else is doing. We have to focus on what is important. We have to avoid the adversaries of life that come our way. We have to understand that certain people can’t go where God is taking us and we have to realize that people are not going to accept the fact that God has something up His sleeve for us. God has a plan for us and the only way it can be accomplished is that we are obedient and walk in the ways of the Lord. We have to walk in God’s direction because if we don’t our lives won’t go as they should be.

God has placed something in us that should not go to waste. We have to realize that if God placed something in us that by all means necessary give it all to God. God has chosen us from the beginning , even before we were born and revealed it to us, God had a plan. Your destiny won’t let you die. Fulfill the promise God has made to you and Watch it come to past. God finishes what He starts.

We as Christians we give non-believers a bad impression of who Christians truly are.We think we are better than them, more intellectual in the word than them, live our lives better than them but truth be told,we are just like them. Only thing is that we try to cover up the dirt we do by coming to church and serving without others knowing what we do. Let’s get the record straight!!!! None of us are no better than the next person …We are not perfect ..if we were perfect , We wouldn’t need God so therefore , stop thinking that you are better than your non-believing friends and family members because if God ain’t snatch you up when He did you would still be like them. You don’t bring them down, you lift them up and encourage them through life. You are 5 sec away from losing your mind so don’t think you are so grand because you know every scripture of the bible or you know your Pastors name and where He live or you serve in a high position in the church …you wouldn’t have that if God didn’t allow you to have it. You are who you are because God chose you…we didn’t choose Him , He chose us and He didn’t have to but He did.

Psalms 147:3 says, “He heals the heartbroken and bandages their wounds” …we always hear the cliche,”Time heals all wounds but how can we heal if we don’t make time to heal. We are so quick blame others for our ailments and why we feel this way or why we don’t this or don’t do that , all because of what someone else has done to you …you would hear people say,” oh she did this, he did that ….but she left me, he left me …I can’t believe they did that to me ” …and will go on and on and on and on and will get no where because they are suck in what was done to them. Have you ever wondered why you got hurt the way you did.

We are so quick to blame others on why we have been hurt …have you ever thought that your hurt over top of the hurt that you already had ….we get out of situations like friendships/relationships, family issues, church hurts, we always seem to go back to the same issue that hurt us in the first place and never got healed from the first trauma that you got out of. We are so quick to jump into these situations because they are comfortable, because they are familiar …We never realize that when we get ourselves back into the same situation, we are hurting ourselves even more because we never allowed ourselves time to heal from the previous hurt that was caused to us. We have to understand that healing is a process..it takes time …when you cut yourself and skin breaks, you can’t just forget about it …you have to clean it up, take care of it and bandage it up and protect it so you won’t get hurt again …I gotta better one for you ….Don’t keep riding a bike without training wheels if you know you are going to keep falling off it …you will keep hurting yourself until you put them on and not fall again ….You have to protect your heart …

Idk where God has me going with this but we can’t keep getting into the same situation and getting hurt everytime. We have to give ourselves time to heal before we can get back into friendships/relationships .If we don’t we will eventually hurt someone because truth be told, HURT PEOPLE, HURT PEOPLE and its not always intentional. People hurt others because of how they feel or how they have been treated and want someone to feel how they feel and once they have accomplished that , they move on and hurt someone else and never stop to fix the root of the hurt, themselves. Allow God to heal you. Don’t try to find healing in hurting someone else, that’s hurting you even more by hurting someone. Let God be your healer and let Him protect your heart. THERE’S HEALING FOR YOUR SOUL!!!!!!